Habits are difficult to get rid of but not as difficult to create. If you ask many scientists. I’ve found that the easiest way to get rid of a bad habit is to replace it with another habit. The habit to replace the bad one should suit the way you want to live life better than the bad habit.
For example, if you want to stop eating candy as soon as you get home, you could replace it with eating a piece of rye bread with peanut butter when you get home.
I’m not saying that I’ve found the perfect solution to habit creating but I definitely do have some experience in the field. And unlike many other people, I can say that I succeeded. I managed to replace a bad habit with a good habit and that way change the way my everyday life looks.
Let me just tell you how good it feels. It feels absolutely amazing to have control over your life. Because that is really what habits are about; you taking control over the way you live your life.
Who doesn’t want control over their lives?
I honestly don’t know.
I’m here to guide you through the steps I went through when I created a new, better habit for myself. It hasn’t been easy for me, so don’t worry if you find it tough in the beginning (aka the first 14-30 days).
Some people believe it takes 21 days to make a new habit, some says 28, some says 100 and some says 66. You can choose to stick to one of those numbers and believe that after 21 days you’ll be in complete control over your life. And you might. But don’t get yourself stuck up with a number. People are different and it can take you anywhere from 18 to 300 days to really incorporate the new habit into your life.
But you don’t want to motivate yourself with pep talks like “There are only 253 days left until this is a habit” every morning, right?
That’s why you take small steps and take one month at a time. Set a goal for the new month when you’re evaluating the ending month. Goals are your motivation to stick to the habit you’re trying to make. Therefore, goals are the secret to actually creating new habits. At the same time, habits are what gets you closer to achieve your goals.
To take the process step by step, I made a little quick overview:
1. Write down what habit you want to incorporate into your life.
It becomes more real when you write it down. And put it somewhere you can’t oversee.
2. Make a plan
Make a plan where you do the certain thing you decided to make your new habit a couple of times a week. If you it to be a habit you can’t just do it once a week. This is the difficult part. It can be helpful to have a deadline to work towards.
3. Stay focused
There is a purpose of the new habit. Find that purpose and remember it every time you are procrastinating. This specific purpose is your motivation to improve your life. Stay focused and work towards your goals!
4. Celebrate the small wins
When you’ve been on track with your habit plan for a week, celebrate it! You are then one step closer to achieving your goals. Science shows that the most successful people don’t just celebrate the big wins, they celebrate all steps towards the big wins. You are successful too! Prove it.
Please let me know in a comment what habits you want.
I hope you found this helpful.
Stay happy, stay beautiful
– Ellie xoxo
//POST FROM JANUARY 2017//