How to deal with mean girls at school

Mean girls are everywhere. It’s tragic but true. Every school has a group of girls who don’t contribute anything positive to other people at school and spread bad vibes. And then there are mean girls who act like your friends but stab you in the back when you need them. Then there are the mean girls who bully specific people who don’t “fit in”. And I’m sure there exist other types of mean girls.

The point is mean girls come in all shapes, colours and cultures. And though you might desperately want them to just disappear, I can tell you one thing for sure; they will always be there.

Even when you graduate you’ll meet mean girls or women on your next job and the job after and the job after. And your children will go to school with mean girls or even become mean girls.

So when you’ve accepted that you can’t just get rid of them, it’s time to find a solution. Why do they bother you? Can you do anything about it? And would it help or just make things worse if you tried to do something about it?

I am not one to tell you what to do or judge what you choose. I just want to say a few things you can think about when figuring out what to do.

As long as you’re under 18 your parents or guardians are responsible for you. Asking them for help won’t get you or anyone else killed. And how would you feel if your child came and told you after 10 years that they were bullied at school?

Do the mean girls hurt you or does it hurt you when they hurt someone else? Are you a bully yourself or do you help the victims?

Never lose hope.

Sometimes change is good.

It is okay to ask for help.

You are not alone.

It will only make you stronger.

And most importantly, that other people act terrible doesn’t mean that you should. Be the bigger person. They will respect you even if they don’t say it.

Oh, of cause the most important thing is to…

Stay happy, stay beautiful
– Ellie xoxo

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