“OMG, have you seen *insert popular and beautiful girl’s name* new pic on Insta?” your friend asks you. You quickly scroll through your memory and stumble across a colourful picture of an extremely happy and beautiful girl in a small bikini on a beach on an exotic island. A feeling of sadness and jealousy fills you up from your toes to your head. Why don’t I look like that? You think to yourself.
The answer is: because you are you and the girl in the perfect picture is not anyone but herself. That, my dear friend, is the power of diversity.
Lately, I’ve been thinking a lot about the person I’ve been in 2017. I changed a lot going into 2017. Don’t get me wrong, it’s a good thing. I was not trying so hard to be what everyone wanted in 2016 that I forgot who I was. So I desperately needed a change in 2017 and spent a lot of time just trying out new things. A couple of months ago I sat down and thought about who I am and want to become in the future. This is quite personal so I won’t share it with you right now.
What I do want to share are some thoughts I had while thinking about the best version of myself. I thought – and I know this might sound crazy to millennials – that I can be WHOEVER I want to be on the internet. Right now I have three Instagram accounts. Why? Because I have one for my blog and YouTube channel (@thebasicellie) and then I have two personal accounts; one for the perfect pictures from my life and one for the ugly pictures from my life. I always thought it was genius… but is it really? I mean, is it really cool that I won’t let all of my friends know that I am not perfect?
The thought annoyed the c**p out of me and I decided to change my personal accounts. The ugly one is still ugly but the bio says: a collection of barely edited pictures to give you a realistic idea of my life as… The bio on my perfect Instagram now says: a collection of highly edited pictures so you never doubt how perfect my life is. Sounds a bit sarcastic? That is the point.
How can I be 18 years old and fear that people won’t like me when I’m not perfect (unedited)? If people don’t like me when I don’t look skinny or perfect on my Instagram, they simply don’t deserve a role in my life.
This might feel like a really superficial post but try to think about it. How many times every week do you make a choice to do or not to do something because you fear other people’s reactions?
One of my main focuses in 2018 will be to do whatever I feel like doing – no matter what people will think of me. 2018 is my year to be brave.
I encourage you to post the pictures you like without editing your nose smaller or butt bigger. I encourage you to join the club you find interesting even if the people in the club aren’t the school’s most popular students. I encourage you to embrace and learn to love all the things you don’t like about yourself. I encourage you to be fucking brave – and you don’t have to wait for it to become 2018!
The girl in the picture is no more perfect than you are. She is also insecure about herself. She also gets her heart broken. She also thinks she looks weird when she’s stared at the photo for too long. Trust me, she’s human just like you. Always keep that in mind.
Lastly, I want to share the wisest words I’ve ever said. I first said this in June this year and I feel like it might become my life slogan.
“I would rather try and be disappointed than be disappointed for not trying.”
Stay happy, stay beautiful
– Ellie xoxo